How to make money as a stripper.

Hi there,

My name is Gia and I have recently begun working at a classy gentleman's
club in Australia.

I can hold a good conversation with the guys, however I'm not much of a
hussler and this is where I need some advice. At the club I work at we have
a 3 minute rule which means we chat briefly with a guy and in that time have
to basically ask them whether they would be interested in having a lap dance
with me.

Do I take the direct approach and just introduce myself and ask them
outright if they're interested in having a lap dance and getting to know me
a little better? Or are there some good chat up lines you can suggest that
will help me be unique and stand out from the other girls and have the guys
interested in having lap dances with me?

Any other advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated

xx Gia



Hi Gia. Excellent question! It seems you are already on the right track. Having excellent communication skills is one of the most important factors in determining how much money you will make as a stripper. This is why strippers make such great salespeople. I always encourage women who are retiring from the industry to seek out sales positions. Many find they excel in a sales environment. They are accustomed to the competitive nature of the job, are able to effectively and positively deal with rejection, have excellent communication skills, and are assertive.

We don't have a 3-minute rule here in Houston. In fact, I’ve danced in several cities throughout US and have never seen a 3-minute rulet. However, it sounds like a good concept. I’m just not sure it’s practical. Allow me to elaborate: One common misconception about making money as a stripper is that you have to be beautiful. This is just simply not true. I have seen women who are absolutely stunning make little to no money because they didn’t know how to hustle. Likewise, I’ve seen women who were less physically attractive make tons of money because of their hustling skills. If you are highly attractive that’s a bonus of course, but beauty alone will not make you much money.

Most gentlemen, no matter how beautiful the dancer is will want to get to know her first. Typically this only takes a few minutes. If you work smart it can be done effectively within the 3-minute rule. In my experience, approaching the gentleman and simply asking if he’d like a dance is rarely effective. Some gentlemen will feel defensive and simply say no. Another reason this rarely works is because the gentlemen really do want to become acquainted with the dancer a first. Also, men like variety. You simply might not be his type. Keep in mind: even if you are not his type but spend a few minutes chatting, he will likely warm-up to you and buy a dance anyway.

It sounds like there are two things that need to be accomplished in your situation. The first goal is to make him to want your company for a few minutes. The second is to charm in during that 3- minutes of company. Below are some tips that might help you out.


Tips for making their acquaintance:

1. Walk seductively and confidently up to him, smile big, and enthusiastically ask him if he would like some company. It’s very important you appear friendly and happy. He needs to believe you really want to sit and enjoy his company. Men are intuitive, as well. If they sense you do not want to be there they will pick-up on it. If they sense you have low self-confidence they will pick-up on it. If they sense you anticipate rejection they will pick-up on it. Do your best to rid yourself of any negativity before your approach. You must be convincing. Also, be prepared to face rejection. This is only natural and comes with the territory. It’s part of being a dancer. He may be waiting on another dancer, he may be shy, he may need a drink first, or you simply might not be is type. You can’t win ‘em all. Never take it personally or allow it to get you down. If you ask three gentlemen for their company and they all say “no”, take a break for a few minutes and try again.

2. When you are not busy entertaining the gentlemen, try not to let them see you just sitting around. Men want what other men want. If you are sitting around doing nothing, the gentlemen may assume there is a reason for it. If you can’t find anyone to let you sit and dance for them try to excuse yourself to the dressing room or another part of the club. Stay out of sight for a little while. That way, when you re-appear on the floor or stage they will think you have been busy. If one man buys a dance from you it will start a snowball effect. If you’re absolutely desperate to start the snowball rolling you may even give one special gentleman a free dance. The other gentlemen won’t know it was free. They will see you are busy and want a part of the action. This has been proven to work.

3. When you are on stage try to make as much eye contact as possible. When you look them directly in the eye, especially from stage, they will feel special. Even if they don’t tip, you will stand out as the one who made them feel special. Some men don’t tip on stage because they feel embarrassed standing up in front of the patrons. Always try to notice which men are watching you. Even if they didn’t tip, it couldn’t hurt to approach them anyway.

Now that you have made their acquaintance, it’s time to charm their pants off. No wait… it’s time to let them think they’ve charmed yours off.


Tips for getting the dance:

1. Once you have made his acquaintance much of your success will depend on timing, so use your intuition. All people have it and women seem especially attuned to it.

2. If he seems uninterested in conversation keep in mind he might be intimidated, shy, or simply a poor conversationalist.

3. Always stay positive! For example, if he asks how your day/night has been always enthusiastically reply “excellent!” And in return ask how his day/night has been. When he answers, ask why. Keep him talking. Never complain. Never insinuate that it’s a slow day and you’re not making money. Never tell them you are sick, your dog has died, etc. Always stay positive. I can’t emphasize this enough. Always Stay Positive!

4. The key is to get him to warm-up to you. Flirt, flirt, flirt! He needs to believe he has a chance with you and that you really like him. Below you will find a list of questions and resources which might help him open-up. Some are typical and some are not. The answers are virtually irrelevant. The important thing is he is talking and you are communicating. People love to talk about themselves.

5. Once he opens up and feels comfortable it’s time to ask for that dance. Politely explain the club has a three-minute rule and you are not permitted to stay any longer without dancing. Then smile big and seductively while saying something to the effect of “ready for a spectacular dance?” Again, remember rejection is simply a part of the job. If he says no, politely tell him you are not permitted to stay any longer and if he changes his mind you’ll be happy to come back and give him that spectacular dance. Smile, excuse yourself, be grateful you only lost three minutes and move on to the next one.

If you are going to be a good conversationalist you will need to be knowledgeable about many different subjects. Always learn new things. Continually educate yourself. You don’t have to be an expert, but you do want to have a base knowledge of as many topics as possible.


Some basic conversation starters: (These may seem dull and unoriginal, but they do work.)
Where are you from?
How long have you lived here?
Where did you grown up?
Where did you go to school?
What was your major?
What do you do for a living?
What do you like to do for fun?
If they say they travel a lot, ask where to and what their favorite travel locale is.
What sports do you like? Try to stay up to date on this.
What do you do in your spare time?
Bring up something funny that happened to you.

Fun sexy questions to get him in the mood for a dance:
What turns you on?
What is your favorite position?
Use your imagination, be creative. If you’re comfortable talking sexy and the situation seems ripe for it, go for it!

What not to ask:

Stay away from taboo subjects; such as politics and religion. If they want to talk about these subjects great. Stay educated about them just in case. Typically, they do not want to talk about work and family. They are usually there to escape exactly that part of their life. Always try to ask open-ended questions; which can not be answered with a monosyllabic yes or no response.

Here are some good resources for conversation starters:

Some very unique questions:
http://www.corsinet.com/braincandy/question.html

First date conversation starters: http://dating.about.com/

Keep it light:
http://searchwarp.com/swa45156.htm


Note: If you are still having no success and you feel like conversing with the gentleman is like pulling teeth, perhaps he’s simply a dud. Remember, you can’t make money if you don’t ask. Ask for the dance. If he says no, move-on to the next one. I hope this was of help to you. Best of luck! I’d love to know how it works out for you. Please keep in touch. Andi.